I cannot post the original messages but 1 year ago this week the girl I would be posting about as ‘D’ first emailed me. She first messaged me on Fetlife (username:Match) and then 1 day later via my website (www.playwithmatch.com). Below is my reply to her. We ended up meeting 3 days later and life was never the same again.
“Thanks for writing! I got your fetlife message last night and am pleased you also emailed me here.
Where to start. First off thank you for being so direct, I really appreciate when people know what they want and are not afraid to put themselves out there. I would enjoy talking to you and possibly be your mentor or maybe, if things mutually progress, even your Master one day. I tend to start slow though so we can cross that bridge later.
On your fetlife message you mentioned protocols; in general, there are none. Though, when writing messages a lot of people play what we can ‘the pronoun game’ (He/she Master/slave, Top/bottom) meaning they always capitalize the dominant and lowercase the submissive. To be honest, I have little patience for the strict adherence to that. It makes since when making a general statement but strict adherence to it has always annoyed me (do a search for my friend lumpesse on fetlife for humorous posts on the topic). My grammar is bad enough without needing to worry about pronoun punctuation :) However, it is worth mentioning as many people follow that construct. As for me, a simple ‘Sir’ goes a long way to making me happy. Other than that, in general, it is welcomed to reach out and express interest in potential Masters.
Looks like you live in Dupont? I am at 18/U. We should meet up for a coffee or a drink so we can chat more directly. I have been in the local scene about 2 years and I’ve been in the scene in general for about 7. I really enjoy mentoring and I can get you in touch with many of the local groups and events. You had mentioned playing together I am very open to that but I would like to sit and chat first so that I know what you are looking for (needs, wants, desires curiosities, etc) before we schedule a play date. As for looking for a Master, again, I am open to that but would like to cross that bridge after we get to know each other a bit more.
You had also mentioned your husband. It is great that he would be open to ‘topping’ you but I completely understand your hesitation. While I do occasionally date my submissives it is a very different dynamic that a ‘vanilla’ relationship; even a vanilla relationship that involves casual play. To submit oneself fully to a Master can be an awesome thing but it is a much different dynamic from the partnership of a marriage. We can talk about that later but I am glad you recognize and have considered the differences.
My phone number is 571-…-…. Feel free to call or text me anytime. Quick hint to things that make me happy: short text messages of thanks, praise or appreciation make my day brighter :)
Thanks again for finding me, I am really looking forward to chatting with you soon.
ps. thank you for send more photos. You are a very beautiful person. I’d offer to send you some in kind but I am assuming you have been to my website so you have probably seen more of me than I of you! “
